Quick links to online help resources need to be gathered:
GET HELP Text HOME to 741741 in US
National Suicide Prevention Lifeline
Helpful Overall: Turn2Me
“Hosts free online support groups for anxiety, depression, stress management, suicidal thoughts and feelings, and more.”
Free Screening Tools: Mental Health America
“In addition to their forums, they offer screening tools that can help you identify if you might have a mental illness, such as anxiety or PTSD.”
Informational Site: Anxiety and Depression Association of America
“Provides extensive information and resources on anxiety, as well as an anonymous online peer-to-peer support group.”
Best for Free One-on-One Support: 7 Cups of Tea
“Seven Cups of Tea offers support from peers, trained volunteers, and paid professionals.”
Best Peer-to-Peer Support Group: TheTribe
“You’ll have access to a blog where you can share your story, speak your mind, inspire others, or just vent.”
Most Active Anxiety Forum: Daily Strength
“The anxiety forum is active every day and the site tells you how many members are currently online.”
Best for Joining Multiple Support Groups: SupportGroups.com
“Unlike some sites that only allow you to join one group, SupportGroups.com encourages you to join as many groups as you like.”
Ideas on how to deal with feeling attacked.
A set of tips for dealing with all anger.
Great article on how to identify and ‘master’ feelings.
How to identify the core emotion that’s upsetting you
List your concerns or problems and assign the emotions, thoughts, and beliefs attached. If you’re unsure what those thoughts are, Robistow recommends a “So what does that mean?” exercise.
The “So what” exercise example:
Problem: Everyone expects me to rearrange my schedule to fit theirs.
Feelings or emotions: anger, resentment, hurt
|Ask:||Answer (to find your underlying belief):|
|So what?||So they think what they have going on is more important than what I have going on.|
|So what?||So that’s selfish of them to not even think about how this inconveniences me.|
|So what?||So if I want to see them or be part of the event, I just have to suck it up.|
|So what does that mean?||It means that if I don’t make the effort, I’ll never get to spend time with them…|
Possible conclusion: …which means that I’ll be all alone, and they’ll eventually forget about me. I’m afraid I’m forgettable, or they don’t care about me.
The meaning we uncover in the exercise might feel brutal. But that’s when the true work of CBT, or organizing your feelings, comes into play.
“Look for exceptions,” Robistow says. “Ask yourself, ‘Is that really true? Or can I find evidence that contradicts that belief?’”
In the example provided, the person might think of times when others have gone out of their way to see them or expressed having a blast after hanging out. They’ll know that the conclusion they arrived at is false.